It goes without saying that when a lot of ladies become mothers, fashion and style can be at the bottom of the priority list. So, what happens when we come out of the other side of that and want to feel trendy again, but our bodies have changed and we have no idea what a mum is supposed to wear? Cue the Parent Pause style confidence workshop in aid of peri-natal mental health charity, PANDAS Foundation.
On Wednesday 10th May, over 40 mums (and their little ones) joined us as we hosted the fabulous Zoë de Pass from Dress Like a Mum, and the beautiful Louise Golding from Rugby’s premier women’s boutique – Sass, for a brilliant style confidence workshop at the super cool Bacco Lounge in Rugby.
After a reception of hot drinks and pastries, we all settled down to listen to London Fashion blogger, Zoë and receive brilliant style advice from Louise. We were so pleased to cover such a wide range of topics such as ‘what’s the alternative to skinny jeans’ and how can we move away from the ‘mum-uniform’ of jeans and a breton stripe.
We talked about body hang-ups and how to find more confidence in our own skin. The over-arching message was to wear what makes us feel good and don’t worry about what others think. A top Sass quote was – “If it makes you feel sunny then wear it. If someone wants to rain on you – enjoy the rainbow!” which we loved and will be using as our mantra every time we fancy wearing something a bit edgy that may attract unwanted comments (like the time I was referred to as the ‘tin-man’ because of my silver chelsea boots!)
It was so great to be able to chat with lots of you and we really loved the relaxed atmosphere and the fact that so many you were able to bring your babies with you – thanks so much to Bacco lounge for providing such a perfect venue with excellent hospitality for families.
As mums of little ones, we spend most of our week running around to classes and appointments for our children, but this was about you and it was so good to see so many mums taking part in this self-care love and doing something for themselves. We were also really pleased to be able to donate all of the profits from the event to a charity that supports people with pre and post natal mental health concerns – an issue very close to our hearts.
If you didn’t manage to come along, here’s some of what we chatted about (courtesy of Hologram Rugby):
Holly; We want to talk about pants [knickers], and M&S, god bless M&S, are the standard go-to for a good pair of granny pants. What is your best alternative for a good pair of granny pants? Where else is doing really good underwear right now?
Natalie; I was talking to someone about this the other day and she said ‘I love M&S it’s great, I really love their colours and everything, but, I’m picking up pants next to seventy-year-olds and I feel like I should be going somewhere else’. So (to Zoe and Louise) what’s the alternative?
Zoe; I actually bought some pants from M&S the other day and they are amazing, I go for three-for-two and I always get seam-free ones. I got pink ones, leopard print and nude.
Louise; I totally agree on the M&S pants, very comfy. One of the other places I like is H&M for underwear, H&M are really good. They do some very pretty styles. And Gap, and Matalan. Matalan have some great little finds, they do seam-free quite pretty but funky, there was a leopard print pair with fuschia pink lace going on so if you want something different that’s a really good place.
Holly; So athleisure, does everyone know what I mean by athleisure? So basically, this is my understanding but I may be completely wrong, I’m not the fashion expert, but it’s where you buy sportswear and you don’t do sport. I go for a run in the morning -I know you’re all looking at me and thinking she doesn’t run- but I do run, not very far, not very fast, but every now and again. And I’ll stay in that kit all day and pickup my kids from school. So am I right, is that the right take on athleisure?
Zoe; I think Wikipedia calls it clothes usually saved for exercise worn in everyday. Comfy, stretchy, leggings basically, or a hoodie.
Louise; It’s okay to go to school in your workout leggings and hoodie, just put a leather jacket on or a blazer. Also trainers, trainers are brilliant. I used to find I would never wear trainers outside of a gym but I’ve completely eaten my words on that. I’ve now got a wardrobe devoted to trainers.
The end of skinny jeans?
Natalie; Can we talk about jeans, I know you talked about buying a good pair of jeans as a good investment. We all love a skinny jean, and I’ve noticed on influences like yourself we’re seeing less and less of the skinny jean. Can you talk to us about other jean styles we could try?
Zoe; I’ve been wearing a lot of cropped jeans recently, looser ones. I’m kind of bored of skinny jeans, they’ve been around for 14 years, and I know when skinny jeans came in I was like ‘I’m never going to wear them’ and obviously wore skinny jeans for 10 years. There’s so many styles of jean around at the moment, High Street-wise I like Topshop and M&S. Topshop I’ve always shopped for jeans, they are reasonably priced and they last. There’s a lot of statement jeans around at the moment and that’s an easy thing to wear, you dress up and down. The cropped jean’s really nice, especially in this weather. Dungarees are still going strong. Don’t assume you won’t suit them until you try them on, because when you get stuck in a jean rut of skinny jeans, once you try some on you’re like ‘actually these are more comfortable’.
Louise; High waist jeans are still the most comfortable. Curve fit as well, something that sits into the lower back so when you’re bending down with little ones you’re not going flash everyone your pants.
Images by Jamie Grey and Ben Bullard.